Why Being a Beginner Sucks (And That's the Whole Point)
Mon Jan 26 2026
Being a beginner is uncomfortable — especially when you're used to being capable, disciplined, and "good" at things. In this episode, Courtney shares the honest story of her first Pilates reformer class and why it cracked open a much bigger lesson about growth, ego, and nervous system safety.
We unpack why high-achieving women avoid being beginners, how that avoidance keeps them stuck, and why discomfort isn't a sign something is wrong — it's proof something new is being built. This episode is a permission slip to stop quitting too early, stop performing competence, and stay long enough to actually change. Because being bad at something new isn't the problem — avoiding it is.
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Being a beginner is uncomfortable — especially when you're used to being capable, disciplined, and "good" at things. In this episode, Courtney shares the honest story of her first Pilates reformer class and why it cracked open a much bigger lesson about growth, ego, and nervous system safety. We unpack why high-achieving women avoid being beginners, how that avoidance keeps them stuck, and why discomfort isn't a sign something is wrong — it's proof something new is being built. This episode is a permission slip to stop quitting too early, stop performing competence, and stay long enough to actually change. Because being bad at something new isn't the problem — avoiding it is.