Living Your Life, Not the Algorithm: Who You Are When the Feed Goes Quiet
Mon Feb 02 2026
Nikki and Damaris tackle a surprisingly big question: what happens when your real life collides with the internet version of life—throwbacks, opinions, comment sections, and all?
It starts with the 2016 flashback trend and the feelings it kicks up: nostalgia, vanity, cringe, and that sneaky sense of “Wait…am I doing enough?” They talk body image and clothes, how style and confidence shift over a decade, and why it’s worth clearing the closet of anything that turns your day into a shame spiral.
Then it widens into something deeper: redefining success when your life changes—especially when kids, capacity, and real priorities take up more space. They make a case for counting the unglamorous wins (like showing up, being present, and getting the right shoes for the chorus concert) as actual accomplishments.
Finally, they dig into speaking up online. Damaris shares why she’s gotten more public about her views, why she focuses on actionable ways to help instead of debating in circles, and how she handles the inevitable DMs and comments. Nikki admits the “Do I know enough?” hesitation—and they land on the same point: you don’t have to do it perfectly to do it honestly.
Because the goal isn’t to be impressive on the internet. It’s to build a life that still feels like yours—even when the feed gets loud.
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Nikki and Damaris tackle a surprisingly big question: what happens when your real life collides with the internet version of life—throwbacks, opinions, comment sections, and all? It starts with the 2016 flashback trend and the feelings it kicks up: nostalgia, vanity, cringe, and that sneaky sense of “Wait…am I doing enough?” They talk body image and clothes, how style and confidence shift over a decade, and why it’s worth clearing the closet of anything that turns your day into a shame spiral. Then it widens into something deeper: redefining success when your life changes—especially when kids, capacity, and real priorities take up more space. They make a case for counting the unglamorous wins (like showing up, being present, and getting the right shoes for the chorus concert) as actual accomplishments. Finally, they dig into speaking up online. Damaris shares why she’s gotten more public about her views, why she focuses on actionable ways to help instead of debating in circles, and how she handles the inevitable DMs and comments. Nikki admits the “Do I know enough?” hesitation—and they land on the same point: you don’t have to do it perfectly to do it honestly. Because the goal isn’t to be impressive on the internet. It’s to build a life that still feels like yours—even when the feed gets loud.