Why Are You Yelling?
Fri Jan 30 2026
On today's episode of The Be Ruthless Show, I unpack a question that derails more conversations than we realize:
“Why are you yelling at me?”
What if no one was actually yelling?
I talk about how quickly people jump to conclusions based on tone and volume, and how often those assumptions create unnecessary hurt, distance, and conflict. This episode explores why loud does not automatically mean angry, aggressive, or unsafe, and how hearing differences, cultural norms, personality styles, stress, and grief all shape the way we communicate.
I break down why our nervous systems default to defense mode, how emotional memory overrides logic, and why silence and walking away often cause more damage than asking one simple question.
This episode is an invitation to pause before assuming, ask before withdrawing, and choose clarity over conclusions.
Because not every raised voice is a raised fight, and curiosity could save a relationship.
Remember,
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On today's episode of The Be Ruthless Show, I unpack a question that derails more conversations than we realize: “Why are you yelling at me?” What if no one was actually yelling? I talk about how quickly people jump to conclusions based on tone and volume, and how often those assumptions create unnecessary hurt, distance, and conflict. This episode explores why loud does not automatically mean angry, aggressive, or unsafe, and how hearing differences, cultural norms, personality styles, stress, and grief all shape the way we communicate. I break down why our nervous systems default to defense mode, how emotional memory overrides logic, and why silence and walking away often cause more damage than asking one simple question. This episode is an invitation to pause before assuming, ask before withdrawing, and choose clarity over conclusions. Because not every raised voice is a raised fight, and curiosity could save a relationship. Remember, You can reach out anytime: sam@griefhab.org Join the Griefhab Family: https://www.facebook.com/groups/griefhab7 Join Team Ruthless - for multiple support groups every week and EVERY holiday! https://samantharuth.com/team-ruthless Become a Faces of Grief: Surviving Pet Loss Author: https://samantharuth.com/apply-to-be-an-author