The Masterful Man

In this episode of The Masterful Man Podcast, Sven Masterson and Steve Horsmon take on a growing trend in modern masculinity: men turning to AI for personal growth, emotional insight, and even relational repair. From decoding texts to composing “compassionate” responses, more men are outsourcing what they feel unequipped to face themselves. The goal might be connection, but the result is often disconnection, self-betrayal, and deeper isolation. Sven and Steve share what they’re seeing in their coaching work: Men trying to fix deep relational struggles with surface-level tacticsThe temptation to outsource self-awareness instead of developing itHow AI reinforces a “doing” mindset and keeps men stuck in performanceWhy emotional safety, intimacy, and love require risk, not scriptsThe difference between external skill and internal trustThe subtle ways self-doubt leads to manipulation, even in good menWhy real change begins the moment you allow yourself to be seen This isn’t just a conversation about technology. It’s about what happens when men search for control instead of choosing growth. Underneath the silence, habits, or even anger, most men long to be known and accepted without having to keep performing. But intimacy doesn’t come from better phrasing. It comes from becoming a man who no longer hides behind it. This episode explores why so many capable men stay stuck—and why so few ever find the intimacy, peace, and presence they crave. We speak plainly, from the raw experience of shame and insecurity to the relief of finally liking the man in the mirror. If you’re tired of trying to earn love through perfection, Tired of “solving” your wife like a system, And something deep inside is ready for real change... start here. Related Resources 📖 Narcissist! Or Not? Ever been accused of narcissism, or wondered if you might be one? This short book explores what’s really going on—and why self-awareness, not shame, is the path forward. ➡️ https://narcissistornot.com 🧭 Take the Assessment Want honest feedback on how your behavior might come across to others? Especially through the lens of insecurity or self-protection? ➡️ https://bit.ly/40XFWnV Ready to Actually Do the Work? If this episode hit home and you’re done trying to AI-hack your way into connection, take the next step. Steve and I created the 60-Day Relationship Reset for men ready to become safe, solid, and seen—without outsourcing their inner work. This isn’t relationship advice. It’s a practical path to becoming the kind of man who doesn’t just want intimacy—he creates it. Ideal for men who are: Walking on eggshells in their marriageAlways second-guessing what to say or doFeeling shut out emotionally or sexuallyTired of performing for loveReady to lead from strength, not fear This experience is raw, challenging, and grounded in real transformation—not performative “niceness,” not tactical charm, and definitely not AI scripts. ➡️ Enroll now: https://bit.ly/non-course-men Use promo code: DONTASKAI for 30% off (good for 7 days) Become a Man Who Can Be Intimate Both Sven and Steve host private communities for men who are ready to stop hiding, be fully seen, and walk a path of transformation, not just collect information. Explore Masterful Men (Sven’s community): https://masterful.men Explore Goodguys2Greatmen (Steve’s community): https://goodguys2greatmen.com/goodguys2greatmen-live-coaching-roundtable/ These are not tip-and-trick groups. They're places for men ready to drop old strategies, reclaim their power, and build lives marked by confidence, clarity, and connection. You don’t have to be perfect. You just have to stop running. #menswork #intimacyformen #emotionalmaturity #masculineleadership #menscoaching #selfleadership #narcissismrecovery #authenticconnection #innerwork #relationshipgrowth #marriagehelpformen #emotionalintelligence #beabetterman #masculineidentity #overcominginsecurity