Fear Disguised as "Discomfort"
Mon Feb 02 2026
Fear doesn’t always feel like panic.
Sometimes it feels like discomfort—and when you’ve spent your life surviving, your nervous system can’t tell the difference.
In this episode, we’re unpacking how fear quietly runs the show for cycle-breaking moms, why discomfort gets mistaken for danger, and how fear sneaks into parenting, boundaries, control, and over-functioning… all while calling itself “being responsible.”
If you’ve ever felt that urgent I HAVE TO FIX THIS RIGHT NOW energy—or wondered why relaxing feels unsafe—this one’s for you.
We talk about:
Why fear often disguises itself as discomfort
How fear-based parenting keeps your nervous system on edge
The role of the amygdala and why your brain hits the alarm too fast
Why discomfort is often a sign of growth, not danger
What distress tolerance actually is (and why it matters)
How connection and belonging calm fear more effectively than control
A simple way to tell the difference between fear and discomfort in real time
This episode is for burned-out, anxious, cycle-breaking moms who are tired of living on high alert and want to parent—and live—from presence instead of panic.
You’re not broken.Your nervous system is trying to protect you.And fear doesn’t get to be in charge.
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Fear doesn’t always feel like panic. Sometimes it feels like discomfort—and when you’ve spent your life surviving, your nervous system can’t tell the difference. In this episode, we’re unpacking how fear quietly runs the show for cycle-breaking moms, why discomfort gets mistaken for danger, and how fear sneaks into parenting, boundaries, control, and over-functioning… all while calling itself “being responsible.” If you’ve ever felt that urgent I HAVE TO FIX THIS RIGHT NOW energy—or wondered why relaxing feels unsafe—this one’s for you. We talk about: Why fear often disguises itself as discomfort How fear-based parenting keeps your nervous system on edge The role of the amygdala and why your brain hits the alarm too fast Why discomfort is often a sign of growth, not danger What distress tolerance actually is (and why it matters) How connection and belonging calm fear more effectively than control A simple way to tell the difference between fear and discomfort in real time This episode is for burned-out, anxious, cycle-breaking moms who are tired of living on high alert and want to parent—and live—from presence instead of panic. You’re not broken.Your nervous system is trying to protect you.And fear doesn’t get to be in charge. Repeat Triggers Playbook Free Quiz The Body Keeps Score Book Full Shownotes