The Sauna Show

In this deeply illuminating conversation, host Sebastian sits down with Dr. Tina Schermer Sellers, a renowned therapist, professor, and author of groundbreaking works including Sex, God and the Conservative Church and Shameless Parenting. Dr. Sellers brings decades of expertise helping individuals and couples navigate the complex intersection of faith, family, sexuality, and intimate connection. This episode explores the hidden forces that have shaped modern attitudes toward sexuality and intimacy—from the political and religious movements of the 1980s that replaced comprehensive sex education with abstinence-only messaging, to the corporate and cultural agendas that continue to influence how we see our bodies, desires, and relationships. Dr. Sellers reveals how shame became embedded in our understanding of sexuality, and why so many people struggle to experience authentic intimacy as a result. The conversation moves beyond theory into practical, compassionate guidance on how to heal shame, communicate openly with partners, create emotional safety, and reclaim desire as a natural, beautiful part of being human. Dr. Sellers shares insights from her intimacy retreats for couples, the importance of understanding power dynamics in relationships, and how emotional intelligence and relational skills form the foundation not just for great intimacy, but for thriving in work, parenting, and life. Whether you're a CEO, entrepreneur, parent, or simply someone seeking deeper connection and self-acceptance, this episode offers a refreshing, shame-free framework for understanding yourself and building relationships rooted in honesty, respect, and joy. What You'll Learn in This Episode How political and corporate agendas in the 1980s reshaped sexuality education in the U.S. The hidden cost of abstinence-only education and its impact on intimacy and shame What comprehensive sex education looks like in Northern Europe—and why it works How shame around sexuality affects self-worth, relationships, and even parenting Why knowing yourself—your desires, boundaries, and preferences—is the foundation of intimacy How to start honest conversations about sex and intimacy with your partner The role of emotional safety and power dynamics in creating authentic connection Lessons from Dr. Sellers' intimacy retreats: how couples transform in just 24 hours Why patriarchy has hurt men's ability to experience deep intimacy and vulnerability How to be accountable to your power—at home, at work, and in relationships The impact of media, social platforms, and screens on intimacy and family life Why emotional and relational intelligence are the most essential life skills Practical exercises and frameworks for healing shame and building connection How to raise shame-free, confident children in a culture full of mixed messages Connect with Dr. Tina Schermer Sellers Website: tinascermersellers.com Instagram: @dr.tina.shameless (https://www.instagram.com/dr.tina.shameless/) Abundant Marriage Program: abundantmarriage.com Inanna Rising (psychedelic-assisted therapy support): inannarising.org Books by Dr. Tina: Sex, God and the Conservative Church: Erasing Shame from Sexual Intimacy Shameless Parenting: Everything You Need to Raise Shame-Free, Confident Kids and Heal Your Shame Too About the Podcast The Happiest CEO explores the intersection of leadership, wellness, relationships, and personal transformation. Host Sebastian dives into honest conversations with thought leaders, healers, and innovators who are redefining what it means to thrive—in business, in love, and in life. http://www.instagram.comthe-happiest.ceo Listen & Subscribe If this episode resonated with you, please leave a review and share it with someone navigating intimacy, shame, or the journey toward deeper connection.