The Cost of Quiet with Colette Jane Fehr
Mon Feb 02 2026
You've been swallowing your truth, avoiding conflict, and hoping things will change if you're just patient enough.
But your silence isn't safety....it's a slow death.
This week, I'm talking with Colette Jane Fehr, author of The Cost of Quiet: How to Have the Hard Conversations That Create Secure, Lasting Love, about why we stay silent, and what it costs us.
In this episode:
Why it's so hard to speak up (even when you know you should) What to do when you get the same response every time you speak up The curse of the good girl (and how it keeps you quiet) How to get out of the Cave of Resentment Self-connected communication: the framework that changes everything The only way to build confidence (it's not what you think) Your communication report card (we all have one!) How conflict is the doorway to intimacy, not the end of it Colette is giving us the tools to stop performing and start speaking.
Because the cost of quiet? It's your life.
Pre-order The Cost of Quiet here
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My Substack article, and free quiz: Reveal Your Mask
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You've been swallowing your truth, avoiding conflict, and hoping things will change if you're just patient enough. But your silence isn't safety....it's a slow death. This week, I'm talking with Colette Jane Fehr, author of The Cost of Quiet: How to Have the Hard Conversations That Create Secure, Lasting Love, about why we stay silent, and what it costs us. In this episode: Why it's so hard to speak up (even when you know you should) What to do when you get the same response every time you speak up The curse of the good girl (and how it keeps you quiet) How to get out of the Cave of Resentment Self-connected communication: the framework that changes everything The only way to build confidence (it's not what you think) Your communication report card (we all have one!) How conflict is the doorway to intimacy, not the end of it Colette is giving us the tools to stop performing and start speaking. Because the cost of quiet? It's your life. Pre-order The Cost of Quiet here Follow Collete on Instagram My Substack article, and free quiz: Reveal Your Mask