How to Make Peace With Your Inner Conflicts (Jay Earley on Internal Family Systems Therapy)
Wed Jan 21 2026
In this episode of The Soul of Life, Keith Miller sits down with Jay Earley, one of the most influential teachers of Internal Family Systems (IFS) and the author of Self‑Therapy.
Jay breaks down IFS in clear, practical terms—explaining how our inner critics, procrastinators, taskmasters, and other "parts" aren't enemies, but protectors with positive intent.
Together, Keith and Jay explore how inner polarizations create suffering, how Self-leadership brings relief, and why working with our inner system—not against it—creates real change. The conversation goes beyond therapy to look at:
Why parts are not what they seem
How the Self becomes the true healing agent
The difference between intellectual insight and experiential change
Why polarization shows up in both personal lives and modern culture How inner work may be essential for collective healing
This episode is ideal for therapists, coaches, and anyone curious about IFS, trauma healing, or learning how to make peace with internal conflict.
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In this episode of The Soul of Life, Keith Miller sits down with Jay Earley, one of the most influential teachers of Internal Family Systems (IFS) and the author of Self‑Therapy. Jay breaks down IFS in clear, practical terms—explaining how our inner critics, procrastinators, taskmasters, and other "parts" aren't enemies, but protectors with positive intent. Together, Keith and Jay explore how inner polarizations create suffering, how Self-leadership brings relief, and why working with our inner system—not against it—creates real change. The conversation goes beyond therapy to look at: Why parts are not what they seem How the Self becomes the true healing agent The difference between intellectual insight and experiential change Why polarization shows up in both personal lives and modern culture How inner work may be essential for collective healing This episode is ideal for therapists, coaches, and anyone curious about IFS, trauma healing, or learning how to make peace with internal conflict. 👉 If you enjoyed this conversation, come join us on our new podcast Tripping Over Love — where we explore relationships, psychedelics, healing, sex, conflict, and what it really takes to love without losing yourself. Subscribe on YouTube: @trippingoverlove Podcast links: Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/tripping-over-love/id1850974406 Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/6yl3TNTfBM1TutbETEKYNC Substack: https://trippingoverlove.substack.com/ Instagram: @trippingoverlovepodcast TikTok: @trippingoverlove Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TrippingOverLovePodcast/