132: How He Treats You Is Everything: Angry Men, Emotional Safety & “Is This Abuse?
Thu Jan 29 2026
How he treats you is everything, especially when he’s angry. Get the Angry Man Blueprint here.
In this powerful episode of This Podcast Is For Women, I’m sharing key insights from my recent interviews with Lundy Bancroft and Bill Eddy, two of the world’s leading experts on angry men, high-conflict behavior, and emotional safety in relationships.
We go beyond labels like narcissist or personality disorder and ask the question that truly matters:
How are you being affected by the way he treats you?
You’ll hear a powerful clip from Lundy Bancroft — author of the bestselling book Why Does He Do That? — where we unpack:
Why the question “Is this abuse?” often misses the point
How male anger shows up in your body as fear, insecurity, or walking on eggshells
The red flags of double standards, entitlement, and emotional intimidation
I also share highlights from my recent conversation with Bill Eddy, a conflict-resolution expert who works inside the legal system, where we discuss:
The difference between high-conflict personalities and men who truly want to change
How to set clear boundaries and consequences
Scripts, tools, and “if-then” frameworks that help you stay calm, grounded, and protected
If you’re navigating anger, emotional volatility, shutting down, avoidance, or feeling unsafe to express yourself, this episode will help you see your situation more clearly — without panic, labels, or self-blame.
Both interviews are part of my online course, The Angry Man Blueprint, which includes:
Full expert interviews
Practical scripts and boundary tools
Two additional live classes happening in February
Lifetime access to all recordings
👉 Watch the replay and learn more here.
If this topic resonates with you, I don’t want you navigating it alone. There are very few resources that address male anger, emotional safety, and relationship power dynamics with this level of nuance and compassion — and that’s exactly why this work exists.
Sending you so much love,Adrienne 💗
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How he treats you is everything, especially when he’s angry. Get the Angry Man Blueprint here. In this powerful episode of This Podcast Is For Women, I’m sharing key insights from my recent interviews with Lundy Bancroft and Bill Eddy, two of the world’s leading experts on angry men, high-conflict behavior, and emotional safety in relationships. We go beyond labels like narcissist or personality disorder and ask the question that truly matters: How are you being affected by the way he treats you? You’ll hear a powerful clip from Lundy Bancroft — author of the bestselling book Why Does He Do That? — where we unpack: Why the question “Is this abuse?” often misses the point How male anger shows up in your body as fear, insecurity, or walking on eggshells The red flags of double standards, entitlement, and emotional intimidation I also share highlights from my recent conversation with Bill Eddy, a conflict-resolution expert who works inside the legal system, where we discuss: The difference between high-conflict personalities and men who truly want to change How to set clear boundaries and consequences Scripts, tools, and “if-then” frameworks that help you stay calm, grounded, and protected If you’re navigating anger, emotional volatility, shutting down, avoidance, or feeling unsafe to express yourself, this episode will help you see your situation more clearly — without panic, labels, or self-blame. Both interviews are part of my online course, The Angry Man Blueprint, which includes: Full expert interviews Practical scripts and boundary tools Two additional live classes happening in February Lifetime access to all recordings 👉 Watch the replay and learn more here. If this topic resonates with you, I don’t want you navigating it alone. There are very few resources that address male anger, emotional safety, and relationship power dynamics with this level of nuance and compassion — and that’s exactly why this work exists. Sending you so much love,Adrienne 💗