Unlearning Survival Mode in Relationships
Sat Oct 18 2025
In this episode, Keya McClain the Poet and Shimeka the DAR Therapist unpack what it really means to unlearn survival mode in love. So many of us learned to protect, perform, or please as a way to stay safe - not realizing those same habits can sabotage intimacy, trust, and peace.
Together, they explore how trauma responses show up as control, hyper-independence, or emotional distance, and how healing requires learning to receive love instead of sight for it.
This conversation is about learning to rest in relationships, not just survive them - and how true connection starts when safety becomes internal, not conditional. It’s time to stop surviving love and start experiencing it
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In this episode, Keya McClain the Poet and Shimeka the DAR Therapist unpack what it really means to unlearn survival mode in love. So many of us learned to protect, perform, or please as a way to stay safe - not realizing those same habits can sabotage intimacy, trust, and peace. Together, they explore how trauma responses show up as control, hyper-independence, or emotional distance, and how healing requires learning to receive love instead of sight for it. This conversation is about learning to rest in relationships, not just survive them - and how true connection starts when safety becomes internal, not conditional. It’s time to stop surviving love and start experiencing it