How to Stay Madly in Love During Conflict with Your Partner
Sun Feb 01 2026
Shownotes
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Layla explains what she calls the 3% in a relationship
Why it's important to process challenges somatically using your bodies
The #1 question Layla asks herself when conflict arises
How to use conflict as a vehicle into a deeper level of connection
How a couple in their 70s went from roommates to intimacy, safety, and turn-on
Bio
Fabienne Annick is a Sex, Love & Spirit Coach who sees sexuality and partnership as profound mirrors for self-awareness and gateways to healing, growth, and magic.
Her work is deeply inspired by her own exploration of conscious relationship with her beloved husband, Jef.
Explore Fabienne's programs and coaching on her website and follow her on Instagram.
Jef weaves together integrative psychology and cognitive restructuring as an improvisational art form. He has served as a consultant, coach, speaker, healer, teacher, and high performance mentor for more than a decade.
A master level Shadow EFT practitioner who has innovated his own methodology, Jef's highest ideal is to model and help people influence energetic/emotional mastery with patterns of thought that create internal harmonization.
His vision is one of stabilization and healing which continuously disperses itself throughout the collective psyche, while recognizing, honoring, and learning from the template of Union, alongside with his wife Fabienne, as their most sacred and valuable endeavor.
Discover Jef's powerful work on his website and follow him on Instagram.
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Timestamps
00:00:57 - Guest introduction
00:02:59 - Layla explains what she calls the 3% in a relationship
00:04:33 - Take your business to the next level with my FREE VITA Coaching Checklist
00:06:06 - Fabi and Jef share their epic engagement story
00:14:53 - How sovereignty and self-responsibility show up in conflict
00:19:16 - Why your relationship with yourself impacts your partner's ability to relate to you
00:23:03 - The value of processing things individually before coming together as a couple
00:24:15 - Keys to processing challenges in connection somatically with your bodies
00:26:14 - Second ad: MOOD Sex Magic (clean, scientifically-backed aphrodisiac supplement)
00:28:07 - Layla's top question for herself when conflict arises
00:35:47 - How to practice self-responsibility during relational challenges
00:47:04 - Fabi shares how she uses parts work to process high emotional intensity
00:55:03 - We all still think we're the only one who is broken and flawed
00:57:37 - Layla share the 5 core emotions that feel the most vulnerable for her in conflict
01:03:11 - 95% of humanity's problems come from the unwillingness to feel pain
01:07:00 - How to use conflict as a vehicle into a deeper level of connection
01:13:24 - What it looks like to walk through life as a perpetual student
01:17:06 - Fabi shares an experience of conflict with Jef that put her in full denial
01:24:55 - A vulnerable moment that made Jef fall more in love with Fabi
01:31:44 - Jef shares how a couple in their 70s went from roommates to safety and turn-on
01:39:08 - Conclusion
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Shownotes Take your business to the next level with my FREE VITA Coaching Checklist Layla explains what she calls the 3% in a relationship Why it's important to process challenges somatically using your bodies The #1 question Layla asks herself when conflict arises How to use conflict as a vehicle into a deeper level of connection How a couple in their 70s went from roommates to intimacy, safety, and turn-on Bio Fabienne Annick is a Sex, Love & Spirit Coach who sees sexuality and partnership as profound mirrors for self-awareness and gateways to healing, growth, and magic. Her work is deeply inspired by her own exploration of conscious relationship with her beloved husband, Jef. Explore Fabienne's programs and coaching on her website and follow her on Instagram. Jef weaves together integrative psychology and cognitive restructuring as an improvisational art form. He has served as a consultant, coach, speaker, healer, teacher, and high performance mentor for more than a decade. A master level Shadow EFT practitioner who has innovated his own methodology, Jef's highest ideal is to model and help people influence energetic/emotional mastery with patterns of thought that create internal harmonization. His vision is one of stabilization and healing which continuously disperses itself throughout the collective psyche, while recognizing, honoring, and learning from the template of Union, alongside with his wife Fabienne, as their most sacred and valuable endeavor. Discover Jef's powerful work on his website and follow him on Instagram. Follow Layla! 🌸 Instagram 🌐 Website 💌 Weekly Email 🎧 Listen on Apple Podcasts 🎶 Listen on Spotify 💋 MOOD Sexy Plant Activated Supplements 🔥 For Men: Men's Sexual Mastery 🌹 Obliss: The Sexual Masterclass for Women Timestamps 00:00:57 - Guest introduction 00:02:59 - Layla explains what she calls the 3% in a relationship 00:04:33 - Take your business to the next level with my FREE VITA Coaching Checklist 00:06:06 - Fabi and Jef share their epic engagement story 00:14:53 - How sovereignty and self-responsibility show up in conflict 00:19:16 - Why your relationship with yourself impacts your partner's ability to relate to you 00:23:03 - The value of processing things individually before coming together as a couple 00:24:15 - Keys to processing challenges in connection somatically with your bodies 00:26:14 - Second ad: MOOD Sex Magic (clean, scientifically-backed aphrodisiac supplement) 00:28:07 - Layla's top question for herself when conflict arises 00:35:47 - How to practice self-responsibility during relational challenges 00:47:04 - Fabi shares how she uses parts work to process high emotional intensity 00:55:03 - We all still think we're the only one who is broken and flawed 00:57:37 - Layla share the 5 core emotions that feel the most vulnerable for her in conflict 01:03:11 - 95% of humanity's problems come from the unwillingness to feel pain 01:07:00 - How to use conflict as a vehicle into a deeper level of connection 01:13:24 - What it looks like to walk through life as a perpetual student 01:17:06 - Fabi shares an experience of conflict with Jef that put her in full denial 01:24:55 - A vulnerable moment that made Jef fall more in love with Fabi 01:31:44 - Jef shares how a couple in their 70s went from roommates to safety and turn-on 01:39:08 - Conclusion