Flags so green, they're red
Tue Feb 03 2026
This week Emma goes down a rabbit hole on red flags — and not only Emma's list of red flags, but why they matter, and why they’re not the same thing as an “ick.”
A red flag isn’t about taste. It’s about predictability. The small, easy-to-dismiss behaviors that seem harmless early on, but quietly reveal how someone handles accountability, communication, boundaries, empathy, and effort once things get real. Emma breaks down why so many of us ignore these signs (chemistry, loneliness, hope, “benefit of the doubt”), why intent doesn’t cancel impact, and how to date with your eyes open without becoming cynical.
We've all heard people's red flags but this list goes so, so much deeper. Some funny, some brutal, all painfully telling — plus, Emma spills on what each one tends to predict down the line. Listen through, take notes, and then drop yours: what’s the red flag you clock immediately, every single time?
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This week Emma goes down a rabbit hole on red flags — and not only Emma's list of red flags, but why they matter, and why they’re not the same thing as an “ick.” A red flag isn’t about taste. It’s about predictability. The small, easy-to-dismiss behaviors that seem harmless early on, but quietly reveal how someone handles accountability, communication, boundaries, empathy, and effort once things get real. Emma breaks down why so many of us ignore these signs (chemistry, loneliness, hope, “benefit of the doubt”), why intent doesn’t cancel impact, and how to date with your eyes open without becoming cynical. We've all heard people's red flags but this list goes so, so much deeper. Some funny, some brutal, all painfully telling — plus, Emma spills on what each one tends to predict down the line. Listen through, take notes, and then drop yours: what’s the red flag you clock immediately, every single time? EPISODE SPONSORS: Go to Quince.com/TOOMUCH for free shipping on your order and 365-day returns.Visit RO.co/TOOMUCH for your free GLP-1 insurance check Head to Chime.com/TOOMUCH. It just takes a few minutes to sign up. Unlock 20% off for sustained well-being at Piquelife.com/toomuchTo get exclusive deals up to 50% off, go to MeUndies.com/TOOMUCH and enter promo code toomuch For collaborations and opportunities, email: partnerships@toomuchpod.com Shop the merch!! Follow Too Much: IG TikTok Follow Emma: IG TikTok Want to submit a story or ask Emma for advice? Fill out the form below. https://forms.gle/ZQS261jcUxDFYVoD9 See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.