What to Do When You're "Doing All the Right Things" But Love Still Isn't Coming
Tue Feb 03 2026
Ever caught yourself saying "I'm doing everything right, so why isn't it working?" You're not alone. In this episode, Emma unpacks that phrase so many women use when they join the Turning community, and what it often reveals underneath.
What we cover:
Is there really such a thing as "doing all the right things" when it comes to love? Emma challenges the idea that love works like other areas of life where effort equals results. Unlike your career or friendships, love has an element of randomness and divine timing that we simply can't control.
The difference between wanting love and being open to it. Emma shares her own story of how she turned down Ellie two years before they got together, not because she didn't want a relationship, but because she had deep inner work to do first. Desire and openness aren't the same thing.
How to tell if you're truly ready. Emma offers a simple thought experiment: imagine someone handed you an envelope containing a real, past-the-honeymoon-phase relationship starting tomorrow. What comes up for you? Your honest reaction might reveal more than you expect.
What to actually focus on during this chapter. Instead of treating single life as a waiting room, Emma encourages you to get curious about what genuinely lights you up and to do the inner work that opens your heart to receive love when it does arrive.
Resources mentioned:
Free journaling guide: https://chipper-builder-227.kit.com/journal-guide
The Turning Community for women in their 30s calling in love
Coming soon: a workshop on how to open your heart and call in your next chapter
Connect with Emma:
Instagram: @turning30coach
Join the Turning Community: https://www.turning30coach.com/turning-lp
If this episode resonated with you, please subscribe, rate, and share it with a friend who needs to hear it xo
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Ever caught yourself saying "I'm doing everything right, so why isn't it working?" You're not alone. In this episode, Emma unpacks that phrase so many women use when they join the Turning community, and what it often reveals underneath. What we cover: Is there really such a thing as "doing all the right things" when it comes to love? Emma challenges the idea that love works like other areas of life where effort equals results. Unlike your career or friendships, love has an element of randomness and divine timing that we simply can't control. The difference between wanting love and being open to it. Emma shares her own story of how she turned down Ellie two years before they got together, not because she didn't want a relationship, but because she had deep inner work to do first. Desire and openness aren't the same thing. How to tell if you're truly ready. Emma offers a simple thought experiment: imagine someone handed you an envelope containing a real, past-the-honeymoon-phase relationship starting tomorrow. What comes up for you? Your honest reaction might reveal more than you expect. What to actually focus on during this chapter. Instead of treating single life as a waiting room, Emma encourages you to get curious about what genuinely lights you up and to do the inner work that opens your heart to receive love when it does arrive. Resources mentioned: Free journaling guide: https://chipper-builder-227.kit.com/journal-guide The Turning Community for women in their 30s calling in love Coming soon: a workshop on how to open your heart and call in your next chapter Connect with Emma: Instagram: @turning30coach Join the Turning Community: https://www.turning30coach.com/turning-lp If this episode resonated with you, please subscribe, rate, and share it with a friend who needs to hear it xo