Ep. 55: The High Cost of Being Right: Why Your “Helpful Corrections” Might Be Quietly Breaking Your Relationships
Tue Nov 25 2025
When does “being accurate” become the very thing that disconnects us from the people we love most? In this episode, Matt & Alona pull back the curtain on the subtle — and often invisible — ways our instinct to correct, fix, and fact-check can shut down our kids, silence our partners, and sabotage the connection we’re actually longing for. ❤️🔥
We explore why “connection before correction” isn’t just a catchy line — it’s a nervous-system shift, a mindset reset, and a relational game-changer. You’ll hear stories about kids crumpling when we try to “fix” their pain, how correcting your spouse in public creates shame and shutdown, and how our obsession with accuracy often masks our own discomfort more than it helps anyone else.
You’ll hear moments that may hit close to home, like:
• A parent tries to reassure a child saying “nobody likes me”… and accidentally makes everything worse.
• A spouse constantly jumps in to “fix” the story being told — and the other partner slowly stops talking, feeling erased.
• When we cling to accuracy, we miss the emotional truth underneath — and kids stop opening up because they don’t feel safe sharing their messy worlds.
Have a Kinectin Account? Explore these Nudges to see how they apply to your own life — in a way only Amari can.
Nudge 1:
“When someone I love expresses pain, I rush to correct or reassure because I can’t tolerate their discomfort. I want to understand why I do that, and how to stay present without trying to fix.”
Nudge 2:
“I often feel erased or dismissed when others correct me. I want help understanding what’s happening inside me in those moments — and how to ask for connection instead of shutting down.”
What is Amari?
webe Parents has partnered with Kinectin to bring you Amari, your personal AI coach. Now you can interact with the ideas from our podcasts, articles, and parenting tips — and Amari will help you apply them directly to your personal life. Don’t have a Kinectin Account? Create one here
To learn more about what Alona & Matt are up to check us out at webeparents.com, or follow us on our socials at Instagram, Facebook, TikTok, or YouTube. Be sure to subscribe to webe Pärents wherever you listen to your favorite podcasts.
More
When does “being accurate” become the very thing that disconnects us from the people we love most? In this episode, Matt & Alona pull back the curtain on the subtle — and often invisible — ways our instinct to correct, fix, and fact-check can shut down our kids, silence our partners, and sabotage the connection we’re actually longing for. ❤️🔥 We explore why “connection before correction” isn’t just a catchy line — it’s a nervous-system shift, a mindset reset, and a relational game-changer. You’ll hear stories about kids crumpling when we try to “fix” their pain, how correcting your spouse in public creates shame and shutdown, and how our obsession with accuracy often masks our own discomfort more than it helps anyone else. You’ll hear moments that may hit close to home, like: • A parent tries to reassure a child saying “nobody likes me”… and accidentally makes everything worse. • A spouse constantly jumps in to “fix” the story being told — and the other partner slowly stops talking, feeling erased. • When we cling to accuracy, we miss the emotional truth underneath — and kids stop opening up because they don’t feel safe sharing their messy worlds. Have a Kinectin Account? Explore these Nudges to see how they apply to your own life — in a way only Amari can. Nudge 1: “When someone I love expresses pain, I rush to correct or reassure because I can’t tolerate their discomfort. I want to understand why I do that, and how to stay present without trying to fix.” Nudge 2: “I often feel erased or dismissed when others correct me. I want help understanding what’s happening inside me in those moments — and how to ask for connection instead of shutting down.” What is Amari? webe Parents has partnered with Kinectin to bring you Amari, your personal AI coach. Now you can interact with the ideas from our podcasts, articles, and parenting tips — and Amari will help you apply them directly to your personal life. Don’t have a Kinectin Account? Create one here To learn more about what Alona & Matt are up to check us out at webeparents.com, or follow us on our socials at Instagram, Facebook, TikTok, or YouTube. Be sure to subscribe to webe Pärents wherever you listen to your favorite podcasts.