Episode 370: Notes from a Client Session: What's Making It Hard for You to Defuse Situations
Thu Jan 08 2026
When our kids melt down, snap back, or seem resistant, it's easy to think, "This is bad. I need to make this stop." But when we see our child's behavior as a threat, our nervous system gets pulled into the struggle too, and everyone stays stuck longer. The real shift that shortens hard moments doesn't come from controlling behavior. It comes from changing the meaning we give it.
In this episode, you'll hear:
Why your child's negativity or resistance is a sign of discomfort, not defiance How the story you tell yourself about your child's behavior determines whether situations escalate or resolve What you need in order to help kids' behavior improve more quickly --
Free resources to support you as you're raising children with big emotions
Work with Rachel
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When our kids melt down, snap back, or seem resistant, it's easy to think, "This is bad. I need to make this stop." But when we see our child's behavior as a threat, our nervous system gets pulled into the struggle too, and everyone stays stuck longer. The real shift that shortens hard moments doesn't come from controlling behavior. It comes from changing the meaning we give it. In this episode, you'll hear: Why your child's negativity or resistance is a sign of discomfort, not defiance How the story you tell yourself about your child's behavior determines whether situations escalate or resolve What you need in order to help kids' behavior improve more quickly -- Free resources to support you as you're raising children with big emotions Work with Rachel