When Wanting More Feels Unsafe
Mon Feb 02 2026
When wanting feels unsafe, it's often because it reveals how worthy you believe yourself to be.
So many of us learned early on to edit our desires before we ever let ourselves feel them. We call it being realistic, responsible, or mature – but beneath that editing is often fear. Fear of disappointment. Fear of judgment. Fear of what wanting might expose about our self-worth.
In this episode, I explore why desire is not selfish, frivolous, or indulgent – it's diagnostic. What you allow yourself to want tells the truth about your relationship with worthiness, self-trust, and honesty. When desire becomes conditional, negotiated, or minimized, we slowly disconnect from our aliveness and begin living a life we didn't consciously choose.
This conversation invites you to stop chasing outcomes and start listening inward. Desire rooted in self-worth isn't desperate or frantic – it's grounded, clarifying, and deeply honest. When you allow yourself to want without shame or urgency, you stop abandoning yourself and begin rebuilding self-worth from the inside out.
What we explore: Why many of us learned to shrink or edit our desires How desire reveals your beliefs about self-worth The difference between compulsive wanting and aligned desire Why disconnecting from desire leads to numbness and quiet dissatisfaction How honoring desire strengthens self-trust and self-worth If this conversation is stirring something in you and you're ready to reconnect with what you truly want, I invite you to join my free five-day experience, Reignite Your Spark, at https://www.nancylevin.com/spark
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When wanting feels unsafe, it's often because it reveals how worthy you believe yourself to be. So many of us learned early on to edit our desires before we ever let ourselves feel them. We call it being realistic, responsible, or mature – but beneath that editing is often fear. Fear of disappointment. Fear of judgment. Fear of what wanting might expose about our self-worth. In this episode, I explore why desire is not selfish, frivolous, or indulgent – it's diagnostic. What you allow yourself to want tells the truth about your relationship with worthiness, self-trust, and honesty. When desire becomes conditional, negotiated, or minimized, we slowly disconnect from our aliveness and begin living a life we didn't consciously choose. This conversation invites you to stop chasing outcomes and start listening inward. Desire rooted in self-worth isn't desperate or frantic – it's grounded, clarifying, and deeply honest. When you allow yourself to want without shame or urgency, you stop abandoning yourself and begin rebuilding self-worth from the inside out. What we explore: Why many of us learned to shrink or edit our desires How desire reveals your beliefs about self-worth The difference between compulsive wanting and aligned desire Why disconnecting from desire leads to numbness and quiet dissatisfaction How honoring desire strengthens self-trust and self-worth If this conversation is stirring something in you and you're ready to reconnect with what you truly want, I invite you to join my free five-day experience, Reignite Your Spark, at https://www.nancylevin.com/spark Connect with me: Newsletter nancylevin.com Instagram Facebook