Ep 174: Why Knowing Why You Yell Still Doesn’t Stop the Yelling
Fri Jan 30 2026
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You’ve read the books.
Taken the courses.
Reflected on your childhood.
Maybe even done therapy.
You know why you yell.
And yet…
when it’s Monday morning, you’re late, your kids aren’t listening, and the pressure hits,
you still lose control.
This episode explains why knowing why you yell is not enough to stop the yelling - and why awareness alone collapses exactly when it matters most.
We talk about:
why insight and information disappear under stresswhy your logical brain checks out in “go time” momentswhy therapy and self-reflection can feel relieving but not stabilizingwhy calm doesn’t come from understanding, but from something else entirelywhy this pattern didn’t start with you - and why that matters for your kids
This is not another “how to stop yelling” episode.
There are no scripts, tips, or techniques to memorize.
It’s an orientation to help you stop blaming yourself and stop chasing the wrong solution.
If you’ve ever thought:
“I know what’s going on… so why can’t I control myself?”
This episode is for you.
Mommy Tantrum Video (23-min clarity orientation): LINK
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Hi, I’m Alena - founder of Zen Supermom and creator of the IDTR method (Intergenerational Developmental Trauma Repatterning).
I work with thoughtful, committed parents who have already tried to understand themselves - and still find themselves reacting under pressure in ways they don’t want.
My work focuses on changing the underlying pattern that formed early, shows up in the nervous system under stress, and gets passed on to the next generation unless addressed as a whole.
🎧 Start here – Mommy Tantrum Session
A short orientation to understand what’s really driving your reactions with your kids — and what to do next.
👉 Watch the Mommy Tantrum Session
📚 My book – I Yelled, I Cried, I Healed
Get the Zen Supermom book here:
👉 I YELLED, I CRIED, I HEALED (book on Amazon.com)
More about me & my work:
👉 https://www.alenagomesrodrigues.com
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Send us a text You’ve read the books. Taken the courses. Reflected on your childhood. Maybe even done therapy. You know why you yell. And yet… when it’s Monday morning, you’re late, your kids aren’t listening, and the pressure hits, you still lose control. This episode explains why knowing why you yell is not enough to stop the yelling - and why awareness alone collapses exactly when it matters most. We talk about: why insight and information disappear under stresswhy your logical brain checks out in “go time” momentswhy therapy and self-reflection can feel relieving but not stabilizingwhy calm doesn’t come from understanding, but from something else entirelywhy this pattern didn’t start with you - and why that matters for your kids This is not another “how to stop yelling” episode. There are no scripts, tips, or techniques to memorize. It’s an orientation to help you stop blaming yourself and stop chasing the wrong solution. If you’ve ever thought: “I know what’s going on… so why can’t I control myself?” This episode is for you. Mommy Tantrum Video (23-min clarity orientation): LINK Support the show Hi, I’m Alena - founder of Zen Supermom and creator of the IDTR method (Intergenerational Developmental Trauma Repatterning). I work with thoughtful, committed parents who have already tried to understand themselves - and still find themselves reacting under pressure in ways they don’t want. My work focuses on changing the underlying pattern that formed early, shows up in the nervous system under stress, and gets passed on to the next generation unless addressed as a whole. 🎧 Start here – Mommy Tantrum Session A short orientation to understand what’s really driving your reactions with your kids — and what to do next. 👉 Watch the Mommy Tantrum Session 📚 My book – I Yelled, I Cried, I Healed Get the Zen Supermom book here: 👉 I YELLED, I CRIED, I HEALED (book on Amazon.com) More about me & my work: 👉 https://www.alenagomesrodrigues.com Music by ...