When you can't FORCE it anymore.
Wed Feb 04 2026
You’re Not Failing — Force Just Stopped Working
If you’re in midlife and feeling frustrated with your body, your energy, or your weight — this episode is for you.
So many women hit their 40s and think they’ve lost motivation, discipline, or willpower… when the truth is much simpler and much kinder:
You’re not failing.Force just stopped working.
In this episode, Victoria breaks down why the strategies that worked in your 20s and 30s often stop working in perimenopause and menopause — and why this has nothing to do with laziness or lack of effort.
This is a conversation about:
Why midlife weight gain isn’t a personal failure
How chronic stress and hormonal shifts affect the nervous system
Why restriction, pushing harder, and “discipline” backfire in midlife
What your body is actually asking for now: safety, support, and steadiness
How to rebuild trust with your body instead of fighting it
Victoria also shares her own personal experience of realizing that her body wasn’t broken — it was protecting her — and how shifting from force to support changed everything.
This episode sets the tone for the month ahead and introduces a gentler, more sustainable approach to becoming light in midlife — physically, emotionally, and mentally.
If you’ve ever thought:
“Why isn’t this working anymore?”
“I know what to do… so why do I feel stuck?”
“What’s wrong with me?”
This episode will help you reframe the question entirely.
Why midlife is a nervous system conversation, not a motivation problem
How emotional and physical stress accumulate in the body over time
What “safety before release” actually means
Why support works better than pressure in perimenopause and menopause
How to begin shifting your relationship with your body without force
🧠 Join the free Let’s Talk Supplements webinar (menopause & midlife support): https://linktr.ee/victorialstrategist
🌿 Learn about menopause-specific support and tools discussed in this episode: https://www.arbonne.com/ca/en/arb/VictoriaLefebre
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You’re Not Failing — Force Just Stopped Working If you’re in midlife and feeling frustrated with your body, your energy, or your weight — this episode is for you. So many women hit their 40s and think they’ve lost motivation, discipline, or willpower… when the truth is much simpler and much kinder: You’re not failing.Force just stopped working. In this episode, Victoria breaks down why the strategies that worked in your 20s and 30s often stop working in perimenopause and menopause — and why this has nothing to do with laziness or lack of effort. This is a conversation about: Why midlife weight gain isn’t a personal failure How chronic stress and hormonal shifts affect the nervous system Why restriction, pushing harder, and “discipline” backfire in midlife What your body is actually asking for now: safety, support, and steadiness How to rebuild trust with your body instead of fighting it Victoria also shares her own personal experience of realizing that her body wasn’t broken — it was protecting her — and how shifting from force to support changed everything. This episode sets the tone for the month ahead and introduces a gentler, more sustainable approach to becoming light in midlife — physically, emotionally, and mentally. If you’ve ever thought: “Why isn’t this working anymore?” “I know what to do… so why do I feel stuck?” “What’s wrong with me?” This episode will help you reframe the question entirely. Why midlife is a nervous system conversation, not a motivation problem How emotional and physical stress accumulate in the body over time What “safety before release” actually means Why support works better than pressure in perimenopause and menopause How to begin shifting your relationship with your body without force 🧠 Join the free Let’s Talk Supplements webinar (menopause & midlife support): https://linktr.ee/victorialstrategist 🌿 Learn about menopause-specific support and tools discussed in this episode: https://www.arbonne.com/ca/en/arb/VictoriaLefebre