Why Helpers Break Down: The Hidden Cost of Holding Everyone Else’s Pain - Malaysia Harrell
Thu Feb 05 2026
If you’ve built your whole life around being capable, dependable, and “fine”… what happens when your body says otherwise?
Dr. Jody talks with Malaysia Harrell about the hidden cost of being the helper—how childhood trauma can fuel achievement, how high-stakes service roles stack layer upon layer of vicarious trauma, and why so many women stay in fight-or-flight until something finally forces a reckoning.
This episode connects the dots between:
Overfunctioning and emotional shutdownRepeating patterns in work and relationshipsTrauma that’s neatly “packed away”… until it isn’tThat unsettling moment of success without satisfaction
Content notes: childhood abuse, death row/corrections, murder of a family member, severe illness/sepsis, near-death experience.
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Links & Resources:
• Malaysia Harrell | Sepsis Alliance: https://www.sepsis.org/faces/malaysia-harrell/
• 413: Rising from the Ashes with Malaysia Harrell - The PBT Institute: https://thepbtinstitute.com/risingfromashes-malaysiaharrell/
• HOME | Malaysia Harrell: https://www.malaysiaharrell.com/
Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
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If you’ve built your whole life around being capable, dependable, and “fine”… what happens when your body says otherwise? Dr. Jody talks with Malaysia Harrell about the hidden cost of being the helper—how childhood trauma can fuel achievement, how high-stakes service roles stack layer upon layer of vicarious trauma, and why so many women stay in fight-or-flight until something finally forces a reckoning. This episode connects the dots between: Overfunctioning and emotional shutdownRepeating patterns in work and relationshipsTrauma that’s neatly “packed away”… until it isn’tThat unsettling moment of success without satisfaction Content notes: childhood abuse, death row/corrections, murder of a family member, severe illness/sepsis, near-death experience. --- Links & Resources: • Malaysia Harrell | Sepsis Alliance: https://www.sepsis.org/faces/malaysia-harrell/ • 413: Rising from the Ashes with Malaysia Harrell - The PBT Institute: https://thepbtinstitute.com/risingfromashes-malaysiaharrell/ • HOME | Malaysia Harrell: https://www.malaysiaharrell.com/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.