Episode 136: The Way You’re Swallowing Your Anger Is Costing You Intimacy
Sat Feb 07 2026
Join Lindsey's Masterclass:
Masterclass: “How Anger With Integrity Gets You What You Want”
Tue Feb 10 @ 5pm CT -or- Wed Feb 11 @ 10am CT (replay available).
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Show Notes:
Anger is protective: it’s fight energy and information—not a moral failure.Integrity ≠ calm: integrity is alignment between truth, impact, boundaries, and what you do next.The real relationship test: can anger exist here without exile, shutdown, or punishment?Over-functioning: over-explaining, “making a case,” coaching, managing the other person’s reaction.Swallowing: freezing, minimizing, self-abandoning, telling yourself it’s not worth it—breeds resentment.Exploding: often follows swallowing; shifts focus away from the original issue and breaks connection.Nervous system reality: threat-mode narrows nuance; repair is “metabolically expensive.”Culture critique: “cut off/block for peace” can be protective in abuse, but isn’t a universal intimacy strategy.Co-authentic relating: telling the truth while staying present—without appeasing, disappearing, or dominating.
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Join Lindsey's Masterclass: Masterclass: “How Anger With Integrity Gets You What You Want” Tue Feb 10 @ 5pm CT -or- Wed Feb 11 @ 10am CT (replay available). —— Show Notes: Anger is protective: it’s fight energy and information—not a moral failure.Integrity ≠ calm: integrity is alignment between truth, impact, boundaries, and what you do next.The real relationship test: can anger exist here without exile, shutdown, or punishment?Over-functioning: over-explaining, “making a case,” coaching, managing the other person’s reaction.Swallowing: freezing, minimizing, self-abandoning, telling yourself it’s not worth it—breeds resentment.Exploding: often follows swallowing; shifts focus away from the original issue and breaks connection.Nervous system reality: threat-mode narrows nuance; repair is “metabolically expensive.”Culture critique: “cut off/block for peace” can be protective in abuse, but isn’t a universal intimacy strategy.Co-authentic relating: telling the truth while staying present—without appeasing, disappearing, or dominating.