Helping Your Young Adult Child Choose Treatment With Less Resistance, with Joanna Lilley
Thu Feb 05 2026
ABOUT THE EPISODE:
If you've been waiting for the right moment to bring up the idea of getting your young adult some support, and you're not sure how to do it without blowing up every landmine between you, this episode is for you. Joanna Lilley, therapeutic consultant and host of the podcast Success is Subjective, is back on Hopestream, and she's pulling back the curtain on what it actually looks like to help a young adult move toward help. Joanna works exclusively with the 18 to 29 crowd, and her approach is deceptively simple: meet them where they are, agenda-free, not where your fear wants them to be.
What makes Joanna's process so potent is the way it preserves a young adult's agency at every step. There’s no attempt at maneuvering them into a decision or finding the magic words that finally crack them open. It's about creating the conditions where they feel like the architect of what comes next, and why that buy-in matters more than the program itself. Joanna also gets real about what she's seeing shift in the treatment landscape right now, including why young adults are staying longer in programs, how the complexity of what's showing up has changed dramatically, and what questions parents actually need to be asking before you commit to anything.
When you listen, you'll learn:
Why some young adults may have a deeply distorted picture of what treatment looks like, and how to gently disrupt that narrative without pushing them further awayHow Joanna structures her first conversation with a young adult so it feels like a genuine exchange rather than a formal ‘intake’ processWhy giving your young adult the choice of who to work with matters just as much as the choice of where to goWhy it’s wise to start the ‘what might treatment look like’ process before you think you need to and what it might cost you if you waitEPISODE RESOURCES:
Joanna Lilley (Lilley Consulting) websiteJoanna on Hopestream podcast episode #208 Joanna on Hopestream podcast episode #39This podcast is part of a nonprofit called Hopestream Community
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ABOUT THE EPISODE: If you've been waiting for the right moment to bring up the idea of getting your young adult some support, and you're not sure how to do it without blowing up every landmine between you, this episode is for you. Joanna Lilley, therapeutic consultant and host of the podcast Success is Subjective, is back on Hopestream, and she's pulling back the curtain on what it actually looks like to help a young adult move toward help. Joanna works exclusively with the 18 to 29 crowd, and her approach is deceptively simple: meet them where they are, agenda-free, not where your fear wants them to be. What makes Joanna's process so potent is the way it preserves a young adult's agency at every step. There’s no attempt at maneuvering them into a decision or finding the magic words that finally crack them open. It's about creating the conditions where they feel like the architect of what comes next, and why that buy-in matters more than the program itself. Joanna also gets real about what she's seeing shift in the treatment landscape right now, including why young adults are staying longer in programs, how the complexity of what's showing up has changed dramatically, and what questions parents actually need to be asking before you commit to anything. When you listen, you'll learn: Why some young adults may have a deeply distorted picture of what treatment looks like, and how to gently disrupt that narrative without pushing them further awayHow Joanna structures her first conversation with a young adult so it feels like a genuine exchange rather than a formal ‘intake’ processWhy giving your young adult the choice of who to work with matters just as much as the choice of where to goWhy it’s wise to start the ‘what might treatment look like’ process before you think you need to and what it might cost you if you waitEPISODE RESOURCES: Joanna Lilley (Lilley Consulting) websiteJoanna on Hopestream podcast episode #208 Joanna on Hopestream podcast episode #39This podcast is part of a nonprofit called Hopestream Community Get our free, 4-video course, Hope Starts Here, and access to our Limited Membership here Learn about The Stream, our private online community for moms Find us on Instagram here Watch the podcast on YouTube here Download a free e-book, Worried Sick: A Compassionate Guide For Parents When Your Teen or Young Adult Child Misuses Drugs and Alcohol Hopestream Community is a registered 501(c)3 nonprofit organization and an Amazon Associate. We may make a small commission if you purchase from our links.