Ep. 85: The Cost of Quiet LIVE from the Stage: A VIP Book Launch Experience
Wed Feb 04 2026
Colette Fehr takes the stage during the live launch of her book, The Cost of Quiet, stepping into the role of author in front of a room filled with people who know her work and her story. The setting carries real weight, a public moment tied to years of private reflection, clinical insight, and lived experience around silence, conflict, and connection. This conversation matters because it captures what happens when ideas meant for the page are spoken out loud, in community, with real emotional stakes.
Episode Highlights
[00:00] Colette opens the evening, sharing why this book exists and what led her to write it[02:13] Reflections on the unexpected challenges and personal growth that came with becoming an author[05:34] Introducing Insights from the Couch and the work Laura Bowman sees with women at midlife[06:17] A conversation about quiet quitting relationships and emotional burnout in long-term partnerships[09:29] How emotional engagement, vulnerability, and unmet needs show up across genders[11:33] The role of self-connected communication in changing relationship patterns[17:22] Men, silence, and the pressure to stay strong without emotional language[20:55] What happens when vulnerability replaces suppression or emotional blowups[25:19] The loneliness crisis and why one relationship can’t meet every emotional need[29:11] Effort, intentionality, and making connection a priority[33:01] Social media, overparenting, and the pressure teens carry everywhere they go[34:45] How silence between parents and teens can lead to serious consequences[36:24] Practical guidance for communicating with teenagers and lowering resistance[39:24] Colette’s closing reflections on risk, honesty, and changing relational cyclesIf today's discussion resonated with you or sparked curiosity, please rate, follow, and share "Insights from the Couch" with others. Your support helps us reach more people and continue providing valuable insights. Here’s to finding our purposes and living a life full of meaning and joy. Stay tuned for more!
Ever stayed quiet to keep the peace and felt yourself disappear? The Cost of Quiet is for anyone who avoids conflict and pays the price. Reclaim your voice, strengthen your relationships, and experience real peace. Order your copy and join the movement: https://www.colettejanefehr.com/new-book
🎙️ Love the podcast? Come talk about episodes with us inside The Midlife Chat. It’s a free, private community just for women at midlife who want to keep these conversations going. We’ve created this space for real talk, fresh resources, and honest connection—where you can share ideas and resources, ask questions, and get support from women navigating the same season. Come join us—we’d love to have you!
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Order The Cost of Quiet now! Colette’s new book, The Cost of Quiet: How to Have the Hard Conversations that Create Secure, Lasting Love, launched February 3rd. Order your copy today: https://www.colettejanefehr.com/new-book
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Colette Fehr takes the stage during the live launch of her book, The Cost of Quiet, stepping into the role of author in front of a room filled with people who know her work and her story. The setting carries real weight, a public moment tied to years of private reflection, clinical insight, and lived experience around silence, conflict, and connection. This conversation matters because it captures what happens when ideas meant for the page are spoken out loud, in community, with real emotional stakes. Episode Highlights [00:00] Colette opens the evening, sharing why this book exists and what led her to write it[02:13] Reflections on the unexpected challenges and personal growth that came with becoming an author[05:34] Introducing Insights from the Couch and the work Laura Bowman sees with women at midlife[06:17] A conversation about quiet quitting relationships and emotional burnout in long-term partnerships[09:29] How emotional engagement, vulnerability, and unmet needs show up across genders[11:33] The role of self-connected communication in changing relationship patterns[17:22] Men, silence, and the pressure to stay strong without emotional language[20:55] What happens when vulnerability replaces suppression or emotional blowups[25:19] The loneliness crisis and why one relationship can’t meet every emotional need[29:11] Effort, intentionality, and making connection a priority[33:01] Social media, overparenting, and the pressure teens carry everywhere they go[34:45] How silence between parents and teens can lead to serious consequences[36:24] Practical guidance for communicating with teenagers and lowering resistance[39:24] Colette’s closing reflections on risk, honesty, and changing relational cyclesIf today's discussion resonated with you or sparked curiosity, please rate, follow, and share "Insights from the Couch" with others. Your support helps us reach more people and continue providing valuable insights. Here’s to finding our purposes and living a life full of meaning and joy. Stay tuned for more! Ever stayed quiet to keep the peace and felt yourself disappear? The Cost of Quiet is for anyone who avoids conflict and pays the price. Reclaim your voice, strengthen your relationships, and experience real peace. Order your copy and join the movement: https://www.colettejanefehr.com/new-book 🎙️ Love the podcast? Come talk about episodes with us inside The Midlife Chat. It’s a free, private community just for women at midlife who want to keep these conversations going. We’ve created this space for real talk, fresh resources, and honest connection—where you can share ideas and resources, ask questions, and get support from women navigating the same season. Come join us—we’d love to have you! 👉 Join The Midlife Chat here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/795863256460970/ Order The Cost of Quiet now! Colette’s new book, The Cost of Quiet: How to Have the Hard Conversations that Create Secure, Lasting Love, launched February 3rd. Order your copy today: https://www.colettejanefehr.com/new-book