Parenting From Fear vs. Parenting From Trust
Wed Oct 22 2025
In this episode, J and I unpack what rescue parenting really is, how to recognize when you’re doing it, and how to start shifting from rescuing to regulating — so your child learns strength through connection, not dependency.
It’s often rooted in our own nervous system ... that deep, protective part of us that remembers what it felt like to be alone, scared, or unsupported. So we overcompensate. We rush to rescue. We forget that our children build resilience through doing hard things, not through us preventing them.
True safety isn’t built through rescue ... it’s built through relationship.
Through sitting beside, not stepping in front of.
Through saying, “I trust you can handle this,” and meaning it.
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In this episode, J and I unpack what rescue parenting really is, how to recognize when you’re doing it, and how to start shifting from rescuing to regulating — so your child learns strength through connection, not dependency. It’s often rooted in our own nervous system ... that deep, protective part of us that remembers what it felt like to be alone, scared, or unsupported. So we overcompensate. We rush to rescue. We forget that our children build resilience through doing hard things, not through us preventing them. True safety isn’t built through rescue ... it’s built through relationship. Through sitting beside, not stepping in front of. Through saying, “I trust you can handle this,” and meaning it. TO DONATE TO THE PODCAST: https://in-it-together.castos.com/donate?_gl=1%2Anu0fye%2A_gcl_au%2AMTU2MDMwMTY3NS4xNzU2OTk2Njc1&fbclid=IwY2xjawNMB3pleHRuA2FlbQIxMQABHtNLVkuqFhyxwd09Eb2KDJXBRrR-G1SxsUboaS7RWk6raPyGrcoBeIFzqC_w_aem_E30S7Pr21KdOoJDSY-IJAQ TO JOIN OUR COMMUNITY: https://www.patreon.com/InIttogetherHealingCommunity?fan_landing=true&view_as=public To get my parenting bundle on raising empowered children: https://shop.beacons.ai/ask.courtney/18bb58eb-1a6d-4a6c-8a75-cb5b625b3b1f