The Dating and Break up Crisis: Why People Ghost, Detach, and Leave So Fast
Fri Jan 30 2026
Modern dating has changed and so have breakups. In this episode of Said In Therapy, we unpack the rise of the “emotional disappearance”: situationships, avoidant attachment, the slow fade, ghosting, and why so many people detach the moment things start feeling real.
If you’ve ever been blindsided by someone who seemed all-in… then suddenly “wasn’t ready,” this episode is for you. We break down what’s actually happening beneath the surface psychologically, why finding a serious partner feels harder than ever, and how to protect your heart without becoming emotionally numb.
You’ll learn how to spot emotional unavailability early, the difference between chemistry and nervous system addiction, and what to look for if you want real commitment in a dating culture built around avoidance.
In this episode we cover:
Why breakups feel colder and more confusing nowThe avoidant attachment cycle (and why it’s so addictive)Situationship culture + dating apps impactWhy people leave at the first sign of discomfortHow to date for emotional capacity (not potential)How to heal after unclear endings and rebuild self-trust
If this episode resonates, share it with someone who needs clarity and remember: stability is the new romance.
Trigger warning: abandonment, attachment wounds, breakups, ghosting
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Modern dating has changed and so have breakups. In this episode of Said In Therapy, we unpack the rise of the “emotional disappearance”: situationships, avoidant attachment, the slow fade, ghosting, and why so many people detach the moment things start feeling real. If you’ve ever been blindsided by someone who seemed all-in… then suddenly “wasn’t ready,” this episode is for you. We break down what’s actually happening beneath the surface psychologically, why finding a serious partner feels harder than ever, and how to protect your heart without becoming emotionally numb. You’ll learn how to spot emotional unavailability early, the difference between chemistry and nervous system addiction, and what to look for if you want real commitment in a dating culture built around avoidance. In this episode we cover: Why breakups feel colder and more confusing nowThe avoidant attachment cycle (and why it’s so addictive)Situationship culture + dating apps impactWhy people leave at the first sign of discomfortHow to date for emotional capacity (not potential)How to heal after unclear endings and rebuild self-trust If this episode resonates, share it with someone who needs clarity and remember: stability is the new romance. Trigger warning: abandonment, attachment wounds, breakups, ghosting