Episode 317: How to Disengage from Your Ex and Find Your Power with Virginia Gilbert
Fri Dec 19 2025
In this episode, Brook Olsen is joined by licensed therapist and author Virginia Gilbert to explore one of the most challenging yet empowering steps in high-conflict co-parenting: learning to disengage. Drawing from her book Transcending High Conflict Divorce: How to Disengage from Your Ex and Find Your Power, Virginia shares essential tools to stop the cycle of reactivity, regulate your nervous system, and reclaim your peace—regardless of what your ex does. If you're stuck in conflict, feeling triggered, or unsure how to protect your kids from ongoing tension, this episode offers a clear, compassionate path forward. Learn how radical acceptance, emotional boundaries, and parallel parenting can change your life—and your child's.
Learn more about Virginia Gilbert at her website: https://virginiagilbertmft.com/
For exclusive membership perks join our membership site the Disengagement Zone at https://disengage.highconflict.net/
For classes or one on one consults with Brook please visit our highconflict.net website to register.
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In this episode, Brook Olsen is joined by licensed therapist and author Virginia Gilbert to explore one of the most challenging yet empowering steps in high-conflict co-parenting: learning to disengage. Drawing from her book Transcending High Conflict Divorce: How to Disengage from Your Ex and Find Your Power, Virginia shares essential tools to stop the cycle of reactivity, regulate your nervous system, and reclaim your peace—regardless of what your ex does. If you're stuck in conflict, feeling triggered, or unsure how to protect your kids from ongoing tension, this episode offers a clear, compassionate path forward. Learn how radical acceptance, emotional boundaries, and parallel parenting can change your life—and your child's. Learn more about Virginia Gilbert at her website: https://virginiagilbertmft.com/ For exclusive membership perks join our membership site the Disengagement Zone at https://disengage.highconflict.net/ For classes or one on one consults with Brook please visit our highconflict.net website to register. Free High Conflict Diversion Program Booklet: "When Co-Parenting Doesn't Work." https://www.highconflict.net/booklet Join our mailing list: Disengage and Thrive: One Email at a Time https://www.highconflict.net/emails