Yes, You Deserve To Live, Even If Your Thoughts Say Otherwise
Fri Feb 06 2026
Head to Grow Therapy to find your dream therapist today!Sometimes suicidal thoughts aren’t about not enjoying life. Sometimes they come from something darker:“I don’t deserve to be here.”“Maybe dying would be the right thing.”In this video, I challenge that logic with one question that tends to collapse it:"Would the rule you’re using against yourself still make sense if you applied it to all of humanity?"Because most people live under two sets of standards:1. the ones they apply to everyone, and2. the brutal, private “me-only” rules they’d never apply to anyone elseI unpack:- the “holds up at scale” filter (and why it matters)- how self-judgment becomes a private “death-squad” standard- why “earning the right to live” is a dangerous framework- the question that exposes whether your rule is actually universal—or just self-hatred dressed up as moralityIf you’re struggling right now: please don’t do this alone. Reach out to someone you trust or a professional.
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I know what it is to feel hopelessly stuck and worthless to the world in general. I also know what it is to live without those feelings. I’m both a Clinical Psychology specializing in treatment-resistant depression and anxiety, and a human who has spent more than a decade managing sever depression and anxiety.
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Disclaimer: This content is not intended to be a replacement for receiving treatment. It is purely educational in nature. My relationship with you is that of presenter and audience, not therapist and client.
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Head to Grow Therapy to find your dream therapist today!Sometimes suicidal thoughts aren’t about not enjoying life. Sometimes they come from something darker:“I don’t deserve to be here.”“Maybe dying would be the right thing.”In this video, I challenge that logic with one question that tends to collapse it:"Would the rule you’re using against yourself still make sense if you applied it to all of humanity?"Because most people live under two sets of standards:1. the ones they apply to everyone, and2. the brutal, private “me-only” rules they’d never apply to anyone elseI unpack:- the “holds up at scale” filter (and why it matters)- how self-judgment becomes a private “death-squad” standard- why “earning the right to live” is a dangerous framework- the question that exposes whether your rule is actually universal—or just self-hatred dressed up as moralityIf you’re struggling right now: please don’t do this alone. Reach out to someone you trust or a professional. If my podcast has helped, my new book, The Light Between the Leaves, goes even deeper Next Steps:📩 Get Practical tools for navigating life with depression and anxiety, delivered weekly. About me: I know what it is to feel hopelessly stuck and worthless to the world in general. I also know what it is to live without those feelings. I’m both a Clinical Psychology specializing in treatment-resistant depression and anxiety, and a human who has spent more than a decade managing sever depression and anxiety. Mental Health Coaching with meTherapy with me (for people in Iowa)Find me on YouTubeResources 🪣 Get my free 5-day guide to reclaiming your time and energy despite mental health struggles. 😴 Dramatically improve your sleep in 2 steps with my new Sleep Workbook. 📖 My 1st book: For When Everything is Burning Disclaimer: This content is not intended to be a replacement for receiving treatment. It is purely educational in nature. My relationship with you is that of presenter and audience, not therapist and client. But I do care.