Marriage Myths Part 2 Debunked: 50-50 Isn't the Goal
Mon Sep 08 2025
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Do you find yourself mentally tallying who did which chores this week? Or maybe you've stayed up until 2 AM arguing about something that seemed so important but now feels trivial in the morning light? These relationship patterns might stem from popular marriage myths that sound reasonable but actually undermine connection.
In this enlightening episode, I'm joined by my husband Dr. Jeff as we dismantle three dangerous marriage myths that create disconnection. We tackle the deceptive "50-50 rule" that turns relationships into mathematical equations rather than partnerships. You'll learn why keeping score leads to resentment and how generosity creates a cycle of mutual care that math can never calculate.
We also explore why "never go to bed angry" might be the worst advice ever given at bridal showers. Sleep deprivation amplifies emotions and impairs judgment, making midnight arguments particularly destructive. Instead, we offer practical language for pressing pause without abandoning the issue altogether.
Finally, we challenge the Instagram-perfect image of conflict-free marriages. Like a fireplace that warms the home but requires tending, conflict can strengthen your relationship when approached with curiosity and compassion. The complete absence of disagreement often signals that someone's voice isn't being heard.
Whether you're newly partnered or celebrating decades together, you'll gain practical tools to replace these myths with healthier relationship patterns. Our weekly challenge gives you three specific actions to implement immediately: trading 50-50 for 100-100, learning when to pause instead of push, and practicing small repairs that build trust.
Ready to transform your relationship? Subscribe, share with someone you love, and join us next time for the final installment in our marriage myths series!
Exciting news! Our podcast is getting a fresh new facelift—including a brand-new logo! ✨ After we wrap up Part 3 of our Marriage Myths series, we’ll be taking a short 2–3 week break to relaunch with a whole new look and feel.
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Send us a text Do you find yourself mentally tallying who did which chores this week? Or maybe you've stayed up until 2 AM arguing about something that seemed so important but now feels trivial in the morning light? These relationship patterns might stem from popular marriage myths that sound reasonable but actually undermine connection. In this enlightening episode, I'm joined by my husband Dr. Jeff as we dismantle three dangerous marriage myths that create disconnection. We tackle the deceptive "50-50 rule" that turns relationships into mathematical equations rather than partnerships. You'll learn why keeping score leads to resentment and how generosity creates a cycle of mutual care that math can never calculate. We also explore why "never go to bed angry" might be the worst advice ever given at bridal showers. Sleep deprivation amplifies emotions and impairs judgment, making midnight arguments particularly destructive. Instead, we offer practical language for pressing pause without abandoning the issue altogether. Finally, we challenge the Instagram-perfect image of conflict-free marriages. Like a fireplace that warms the home but requires tending, conflict can strengthen your relationship when approached with curiosity and compassion. The complete absence of disagreement often signals that someone's voice isn't being heard. Whether you're newly partnered or celebrating decades together, you'll gain practical tools to replace these myths with healthier relationship patterns. Our weekly challenge gives you three specific actions to implement immediately: trading 50-50 for 100-100, learning when to pause instead of push, and practicing small repairs that build trust. Ready to transform your relationship? Subscribe, share with someone you love, and join us next time for the final installment in our marriage myths series! Exciting news! Our podcast is getting a fresh new facelift—including a brand-new logo! ✨ After we wrap up Part 3 of our Marriage Myths series, we’ll be taking a short 2–3 week break to relaunch with a whole new look and feel.