Your Anxiety Isn't The Enemy: How Performing For Others Keeps You Trapped With Mitchell Ryan
Tue Nov 18 2025
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What if your anxiety isn't actually the problem but just a signal that you're performing for others instead of expressing yourself?
In this raw conversation, I sit down with voice coach Mitchell Ryan to explore shadow integration, nervous system regulation, and what it truly means to be present in a world demanding constant performance.
From childhood isolation to finding flow through music, this episode is a masterclass in authentic communication and masculine vulnerability.
You'll discover:
The "Monster at the Pub" approach to shadow integration (game-changing)Why curiosity is the only real form of meditationHow hustle culture traps you in doing energy vs. being energyThe bullying paradigm shift that changes everythingWhat happened when Travis spoke to 400 kids about depressionMitchell's journey from isolated kid to voice coach through musicThis episode is for you if:
You feel like you're constantly performing in conversationsYou struggle with parts of yourself you wish would disappearYou're sick of spiritual bypassing and want practical toolsYou've been hustling hard but still feel emptyYou want shadow work without the woo-woo jargon
Key Moments
"Take Your Monster to the Pub" - Travis's shadow integration method that changed a client's life
"Curiosity is Presence" - Why you can't be curious in the future or past
The School Assembly Story - 400 kids completely engaged, and the note left on Travis's car
Mitchell's Origin - Years of isolation, one conversation about guitar, everything changed
Guest Bio
Mitchell Ryan is a voice coach and energy worker specializing in authentic expression and nervous system regulation. Find him on Instagram: @mitchellryan
Quotable Moments
"Curiosity is presence. You can't be curious in the future or the past." - Travis
"What if you went to the pub WITH your monster? He doesn't need to fight anyone—he just needs to be heard." - Travis
"When spiritual people can't explain their work simply, they don't actually understand it." - Mitchell
"You can build a multimillion-dollar business through hustle—but you'll be trapped in doing energy forever." - Mitchell
Resources Mentioned
Alan Watts - On presence and the illusion of controlLuhan Matus - "Whisperings of the DragonThe Offspring - "Come Out and Play"
Connect With Travis
🎙️ Instagram: @the.technician.au
🎙️ Work With Travis: REWIRE, Simplified Depth, Blueprint Retreats
Rate, review, and share this episode. You don't know who needs to hear this today.
Let's f*****g go. Trav 🐻⚡
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Send us a text What if your anxiety isn't actually the problem but just a signal that you're performing for others instead of expressing yourself? In this raw conversation, I sit down with voice coach Mitchell Ryan to explore shadow integration, nervous system regulation, and what it truly means to be present in a world demanding constant performance. From childhood isolation to finding flow through music, this episode is a masterclass in authentic communication and masculine vulnerability. You'll discover: The "Monster at the Pub" approach to shadow integration (game-changing)Why curiosity is the only real form of meditationHow hustle culture traps you in doing energy vs. being energyThe bullying paradigm shift that changes everythingWhat happened when Travis spoke to 400 kids about depressionMitchell's journey from isolated kid to voice coach through musicThis episode is for you if: You feel like you're constantly performing in conversationsYou struggle with parts of yourself you wish would disappearYou're sick of spiritual bypassing and want practical toolsYou've been hustling hard but still feel emptyYou want shadow work without the woo-woo jargon Key Moments "Take Your Monster to the Pub" - Travis's shadow integration method that changed a client's life "Curiosity is Presence" - Why you can't be curious in the future or past The School Assembly Story - 400 kids completely engaged, and the note left on Travis's car Mitchell's Origin - Years of isolation, one conversation about guitar, everything changed Guest Bio Mitchell Ryan is a voice coach and energy worker specializing in authentic expression and nervous system regulation. Find him on Instagram: @mitchellryan Quotable Moments "Curiosity is presence. You can't be curious in the future or the past." - Travis "What if you went to the pub WITH your monster? He doesn't need to fight anyone—he just needs to be heard." - Travis "When spiritual people can't explain their work simply, they don't actually understand it." - Mitchell "You can build a multimillion-dollar business through hustle—but you'll be trapped in doing energy forever." - Mitchell Resources Mentioned Alan Watts - On presence and the illusion of controlLuhan Matus - "Whisperings of the DragonThe Offspring - "Come Out and Play" Connect With Travis 🎙️ Instagram: @the.technician.au 🎙️ Work With Travis: REWIRE, Simplified Depth, Blueprint Retreats Rate, review, and share this episode. You don't know who needs to hear this today. Let's f*****g go. Trav 🐻⚡