Why Healing Yourself Is the First Step to Breaking Generational Cycles of Shame – Part 2
Tue Jan 27 2026
Episode Summary
In Part 2 of this compassionate conversation, host KL Wells continues her dialogue with Denise Frenette on what it truly means to heal while loving someone with addiction. Together, they explore how forgiveness, boundaries, and emotional honesty can exist without minimizing harm or excusing destructive behavior.
Denise reflects on her own journey of reconciling love for her father with the reality of his addiction. She shares how releasing judgment, challenging secrecy, and choosing understanding over blame can help interrupt generational patterns of shame and inherited trauma. This episode centers the healing of the loved one, not as abandonment, but as a necessary step toward truth, freedom, and peace.
Key Discussion Points
Holding love and truth at the same time when addiction has caused real harmWhat forgiveness is and what it is notMoving through anger, sadness, and grief without getting stuck in themReframing harm through the lens of “nothing is personal”Choosing moments of joy while a loved one continues to struggleWhy boundaries are essential to healing, including stepping back when neededHow secrecy and silence reinforce shame across generationsTelling the whole truth as a form of honoring, not betrayal
Some Questions I Ask
How can I love my father and still say, “This was wrong”?What does forgiveness really mean, and what are the most common misconceptions about it?How do we stop taking addictive behavior personally?Is it possible to experience joy while someone we love is suffering?When are boundaries necessary for healing, even if they feel painful?How do we move from anger to understanding without excusing harm?Why does humanizing the person who hurt us help set us free?How do we hold the full truth of our family story without rewriting it?
In This Episode, You Will Learn
Why healing yourself is not abandonment, but responsibilityHow forgiveness can free you without minimizing harmWhy emotions are a pathway rather than a destinationHow boundaries support compassion rather than weaken itWays to challenge inherited shame without rewriting historyHow honesty can...
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Episode Summary In Part 2 of this compassionate conversation, host KL Wells continues her dialogue with Denise Frenette on what it truly means to heal while loving someone with addiction. Together, they explore how forgiveness, boundaries, and emotional honesty can exist without minimizing harm or excusing destructive behavior. Denise reflects on her own journey of reconciling love for her father with the reality of his addiction. She shares how releasing judgment, challenging secrecy, and choosing understanding over blame can help interrupt generational patterns of shame and inherited trauma. This episode centers the healing of the loved one, not as abandonment, but as a necessary step toward truth, freedom, and peace. Key Discussion Points Holding love and truth at the same time when addiction has caused real harmWhat forgiveness is and what it is notMoving through anger, sadness, and grief without getting stuck in themReframing harm through the lens of “nothing is personal”Choosing moments of joy while a loved one continues to struggleWhy boundaries are essential to healing, including stepping back when neededHow secrecy and silence reinforce shame across generationsTelling the whole truth as a form of honoring, not betrayal Some Questions I Ask How can I love my father and still say, “This was wrong”?What does forgiveness really mean, and what are the most common misconceptions about it?How do we stop taking addictive behavior personally?Is it possible to experience joy while someone we love is suffering?When are boundaries necessary for healing, even if they feel painful?How do we move from anger to understanding without excusing harm?Why does humanizing the person who hurt us help set us free?How do we hold the full truth of our family story without rewriting it? In This Episode, You Will Learn Why healing yourself is not abandonment, but responsibilityHow forgiveness can free you without minimizing harmWhy emotions are a pathway rather than a destinationHow boundaries support compassion rather than weaken itWays to challenge inherited shame without rewriting historyHow honesty can...