Why Your Marriage Became Sexless
Fri Feb 06 2026
Most men in sexless marriages did exactly what they were told to do.
They opened up more.They communicated better.They became more emotionally available.They went to therapy.And somehow, the sex life didn’t come back.In many cases, it disappeared completely.
In this episode, I explain why that happens — especially when you’re married to a dismissive-avoidant partner.
We’ll talk about:
Why “more emotional connection” can actually create less attractionHow anxious and avoidant attachment styles quietly kill desireWhy many men work on themselves and then realize the relationship itself isn’t healthyWhy dismissive-avoidant partners often resist getting helpAnd why effort and effectiveness are not the same thing in long-term relationshipsThis isn’t about blaming women.It’s about understanding dynamics most men were never taught — and why doing everything “right” can still lead to a sexless marriage.
If you’re confused, frustrated, or starting to question your relationship, this conversation will likely hit close to home.
Check out my book! https://deadbedroomfix.comJoin the Brotherhood! https://helpformen.com/join
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Most men in sexless marriages did exactly what they were told to do. They opened up more.They communicated better.They became more emotionally available.They went to therapy.And somehow, the sex life didn’t come back.In many cases, it disappeared completely. In this episode, I explain why that happens — especially when you’re married to a dismissive-avoidant partner. We’ll talk about: Why “more emotional connection” can actually create less attractionHow anxious and avoidant attachment styles quietly kill desireWhy many men work on themselves and then realize the relationship itself isn’t healthyWhy dismissive-avoidant partners often resist getting helpAnd why effort and effectiveness are not the same thing in long-term relationshipsThis isn’t about blaming women.It’s about understanding dynamics most men were never taught — and why doing everything “right” can still lead to a sexless marriage. If you’re confused, frustrated, or starting to question your relationship, this conversation will likely hit close to home. Check out my book! https://deadbedroomfix.comJoin the Brotherhood! https://helpformen.com/join