Ep 41: Nikki Minaj & Why Trading Your Soul For Power Never Buys Peace
Fri Feb 06 2026
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The day already felt heavy—parenting logistics, frayed edges, and no Sunday reset—so we start where real life starts: tired and still showing up. From there, we move into the sharp stuff making so many of us ache right now: Don Lemon’s arrest for “witnessing,” Nicki Minaj’s homophobic attacks, and the public prize of siding with power. The throughline is bigger than celebrity drama. It’s the old playbook of authoritarianism: punish dissenters, criminalize documentation, and loudly reward betrayal so everyone else gets the message.
We connect the headlines to the body. When you trade your people for clout, the invoice lands in your nervous system—anxiety, shame, and a hollow “win” that cannot hold. That’s why we talk about PMDD, gratitude, and high-vibration practices as more than self-help; they’re survival tools that keep us regulated enough to tell the truth without burning out. We walk through how platforms amplify bullying, why witness work matters even when it’s risky, and what it means to protect journalists and storytellers who hold a mirror to power.
Then we imagine something better. Drawing from a decolonized faith and years of anti-racism work, we sketch a grace-shaped society where repair is real, accountability isn’t performative, and community is the safety net that systems refuse to provide. White folks must do the work with white folks; Black communities deserve to center care, joy, and mutual aid. The most practical takeaway lands close to home: name where you’re self-abandoning, set the boundary that brings you back, and let your people keep you honest.
If this conversation steadied you or sparked a boundary you’re ready to set, share it with a friend who needs the reminder, hit follow, and leave a quick review so others can find our community. Your voice keeps this space alive—what line are you drawing today?
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Send us a text The day already felt heavy—parenting logistics, frayed edges, and no Sunday reset—so we start where real life starts: tired and still showing up. From there, we move into the sharp stuff making so many of us ache right now: Don Lemon’s arrest for “witnessing,” Nicki Minaj’s homophobic attacks, and the public prize of siding with power. The throughline is bigger than celebrity drama. It’s the old playbook of authoritarianism: punish dissenters, criminalize documentation, and loudly reward betrayal so everyone else gets the message. We connect the headlines to the body. When you trade your people for clout, the invoice lands in your nervous system—anxiety, shame, and a hollow “win” that cannot hold. That’s why we talk about PMDD, gratitude, and high-vibration practices as more than self-help; they’re survival tools that keep us regulated enough to tell the truth without burning out. We walk through how platforms amplify bullying, why witness work matters even when it’s risky, and what it means to protect journalists and storytellers who hold a mirror to power. Then we imagine something better. Drawing from a decolonized faith and years of anti-racism work, we sketch a grace-shaped society where repair is real, accountability isn’t performative, and community is the safety net that systems refuse to provide. White folks must do the work with white folks; Black communities deserve to center care, joy, and mutual aid. The most practical takeaway lands close to home: name where you’re self-abandoning, set the boundary that brings you back, and let your people keep you honest. If this conversation steadied you or sparked a boundary you’re ready to set, share it with a friend who needs the reminder, hit follow, and leave a quick review so others can find our community. Your voice keeps this space alive—what line are you drawing today? Support the show