111: Why Change is So Scary | Post Traumatic Growth Moments
Thu Jan 29 2026
Change doesn’t just knock; sometimes it blows the door off the hinges. We dive into the kind of change you didn’t choose—losses that upend your plans, injuries that shake identity, and detours that feel like freefall—and show how to find your footing again without pretending it’s easy.
We start with the brain. Uncertainty isn’t neutral; it’s costly. That electric-shock study where a guaranteed shock was calmer than a 50% chance? It reveals how ambiguity spikes stress and drains focus. Layer that with identity—how tightly we cling to roles like athlete, partner, or founder—and no wonder forced change feels like annihilation. But there’s a way through: grieve the old story, then root down into values that exist beneath titles. If you loved sport for discipline, nature, and community, those values can live in a new form. If you built a future around marriage or a business, you can still create belonging and contribution, even if the container changes.
From there, we reframe. The mind is a meaning-making machine; give it better prompts. Ask, “What’s possible now?” “What matters most?” and “Who do I choose to be?” These questions steer you out of doom loops and into agency. We share practices that build resilience before the next curveball—micro-doses of uncertainty, a day with no plan, trips without itineraries, journaling that turns rumination into insight, and conversations that let grief move instead of harden. Gratitude becomes a state shift at the starting line, whether that’s a race with real risk or a hospital corridor where you hold a hand and breathe.
The throughline is simple and strong: accept impermanence, anchor in values, and train your recovery. The dip between impact and rebound can get shorter with practice. You’ve survived 100% of your changes so far; you’re more capable than your fear suggests. If this conversation helps, share it with a friend who’s navigating a hard pivot, subscribe for more grounded tools, and leave a review to tell us what question you’ll carry forward.
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Change doesn’t just knock; sometimes it blows the door off the hinges. We dive into the kind of change you didn’t choose—losses that upend your plans, injuries that shake identity, and detours that feel like freefall—and show how to find your footing again without pretending it’s easy. We start with the brain. Uncertainty isn’t neutral; it’s costly. That electric-shock study where a guaranteed shock was calmer than a 50% chance? It reveals how ambiguity spikes stress and drains focus. Layer that with identity—how tightly we cling to roles like athlete, partner, or founder—and no wonder forced change feels like annihilation. But there’s a way through: grieve the old story, then root down into values that exist beneath titles. If you loved sport for discipline, nature, and community, those values can live in a new form. If you built a future around marriage or a business, you can still create belonging and contribution, even if the container changes. From there, we reframe. The mind is a meaning-making machine; give it better prompts. Ask, “What’s possible now?” “What matters most?” and “Who do I choose to be?” These questions steer you out of doom loops and into agency. We share practices that build resilience before the next curveball—micro-doses of uncertainty, a day with no plan, trips without itineraries, journaling that turns rumination into insight, and conversations that let grief move instead of harden. Gratitude becomes a state shift at the starting line, whether that’s a race with real risk or a hospital corridor where you hold a hand and breathe. The throughline is simple and strong: accept impermanence, anchor in values, and train your recovery. The dip between impact and rebound can get shorter with practice. You’ve survived 100% of your changes so far; you’re more capable than your fear suggests. If this conversation helps, share it with a friend who’s navigating a hard pivot, subscribe for more grounded tools, and leave a review to tell us what question you’ll carry forward. Follow Coach Polly @getbusythriving and Coach Sam @thesamanthapruitt Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/everydayawesomeproject Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/everydayawesomeproject Linktree for ALL THE THINGS: https://linktr.ee/everydayawesomeproject Website/About Us: https://everydayawesomeproject.com/about-us/